Caps #6

Analysis of Differences-Similarities Dialectic

By Nolan DeBord

            The Differences-Similarities Dialectic is described in our text as the attraction to another person in regards to a relationship in terms of the differences and similarities with that individual.  The terms connected to this dialectic are defined in our book as first, the similarity principal.  This is a principle of relational attraction suggesting that individuals tend to be attracted to people they perceive to be similar to themselves. (Martin/Nakayama 2010)  This is known by most people and can often be applied to most cultural groups.  Second, is cognitive consistency which is having a logical connection between existing knowledge and a new stimulus. (Martin/Nakayma 2010)  The differences that attract us to an individual of a different culture are sometimes said to balance a relationship.  The stimulus of the opposite characteristics can be said to complete some individuals.

            A perfect example of this dialectic is more than applicable to college students.  Our generation, of currents students, is in the largest cultural mix that most college generations have ever seen.  We are more inclined now and at this time of our lives to participate in intercultural relationships whether that is a friendship or a romantic relationship.  With the vast amount of different cultures in college and even at UNL we are more inclined and have the opportunity to explore the advantages of differences and similarities explained in the dialectical approach I have used for this caps blog.

            With the knowledge I have gained from this paper and my cultural reporter project, which is based on intercultural relationships, I can see the aspects of intercultural relationships that make it a positive relationship.  The benefits such as acquiring knowledge, breaking down stereotypes and acquiring new communication skill and competency can make an intercultural relationship crucial to our growth as an adult in the new millennium. This growth and knowledge that we are attaining can possibly change the aspects of a culture itself.  History has proved the changes we have experienced in the U.S. and I believe these changes will continue.

Reference:

Martin, J., & Nakayama, T. (2010). Intercultural Communication in Contexts. New York: McGraw Hill.